ARC Book Review: You All Grow Up And Leave Me by Piper Weiss


ashley | You All Grow Up And Leave Me by Piper Weiss was dedicated to Lost Girls and opened with an epilogue documenting where all the information comes from, indicating that what is to follow is based on true events. This was a true crime memoir, something I haven’t really heard of before, despite my love of true crime and memoirs.

This was written as such, too. Written with a storytellers voice, even though it was depicting actual events that were taken from interviews and reports. The content was all over the place, often seeming off topic or not important. But we’re getting to know the narrator, she is setting the scene and everyone in it, which pulls this situation out into a longer and more flowery narrative.

Though I can’t see this being for everyone. The way it is written is all over the place. It’s not hard to follow but it’s not straight up linear and it speaks to Weiss’s obsessiveness and mental state. I liked this. A lot. It reminded me of other memoirs I read, where it’s just a scattered stream of consciousness. It’s telling a story in it’s own way and will get there eventually, but not until we’ve unraveled everything else that is in her head.

Not to mention, at the core of this book is a pretty awful crime that can be triggering for some people and disturbing for most.

This book was a carefully curated mix of a women’s struggle with obsessive compulsiveness and generally coming of age, and what happens when she remembers how close she came to being a victim of a predator. Slightly therapeutic, I imagine. It’s also a somewhat analytical look at obsessiveness and self harm, supported by studies and facts. Weiss mashes together a descriptive story about her upbringing, a profile of this predatory man’s life and the quest her adult self embarks on to find out why she’s still obsessed with this man so many years later.

It’s an odd combination and the tone of the book changes often throughout. I don’t know if it necessarily works well, it doesn’t create much of a flow, but it does cover all the interesting angles of the story, from an intimate she-was-there perspective to the factual investigative reporting to a hindsight 20/20 adult viewpoint, all of which brings both answers and more questions to the scenario.

Not surprisingly, I read this book obsessively, tearing through the pages in a couple of sittings. Everything about it gripped me from the first page and pulled me to the edge of my seat. It’s a shame that I took such entertainment from someone’s almost tragedy, but it was written in the way that provokes the intrigue and the celebrity of it all, so I guess it’s to be expected.


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